Sophie B. Hawkins – Damn I Wish I Was Your Lover – Official Music Video. The song was written by Sophie B. Hawkins. It was released as the lead single from Sophie’s debut album “Tongues and Tails”. “Damn I Wish I Was Your Lover” was released in March 1992. It charted at number 3 in Norway, 4 in New Zealand and at #5 in the Billboard Hot 100 chart in the United States.